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What Does It Mean to Dream You're Trapped in a Building? A Psychologist Reads Her Own Dream
I dreamed about an office building nobody was allowed to leave, with a fake ocean on one floor and a real river under another. Here's the dream in full, how I read it as a psychologist, and what dreams like this can tell you about your mental health.
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COVID Was a Shared Trauma. Why Isn't Anyone Asking You About It?
When I ask new clients how COVID affected them, almost all of them say nobody has ever asked. Then every one of them has an answer. Here's why the pandemic counts as a shared trauma, what it did to adults and kids, why therapists skip over it, and how to finally take it seriously.
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The Four Identity Statuses: Marcia and Erikson Explained
Most of us were told we were supposed to know who we are by now. A psychologist walks through James Marcia's four identity statuses and Erik Erikson's psychosocial moratorium, and why the messy, uncertain middle is how a durable identity actually gets built.
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Burnout Isn't Tired. That's Why Rest Doesn't Fix It.
The people who come to me for burnout almost never lead with that word. They say they're fine, just tired, and then they explain a life that would exhaust anyone. Vacation doesn't touch it, because burnout was never about hours.
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Pilots Have Been Hiring Life Coaches. The FAA Just Gave You a Better Option.
For years, pilots hired life coaches because a psychologist felt like a risk to the medical. That was a rational response to the system. In May, the system changed.
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Autism and Transgender Identity: What the Research Actually Shows
Autistic people are three to six times more likely to be transgender. Nobody has explained why. So why is everyone so certain what it means?
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HHS Wolves in White Coats: What the Transgender Report Left Out
Government health documents are, or at least they should be, boring. Tables, methods sections, confidence intervals. In August, HHS published one with a scalpel and blood spatter on the cover. One finding in it is real. Everything else borrows its credibility.
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Supporting Loved Ones: Effective Strategies to Overcome Family Loneliness
Discover practical strategies to support a family member struggling with loneliness. Learn how to initiate conversation, encourage social interaction, provide emotional support, and foster a sense of belonging.
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Loneliness Is Bigger Than The Holidays
Loneliness exists beyond the holidays, yet only during this family-themed season do we glimpse the despair endured by millions throughout the entire year.
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