Self Determination Articles

Most of the guilt people bring me is noise. Then there is the other kind, where you let something slide that mattered and you know it. Forgiving yourself for that kind follows a sequence, and skipping to the end does not work. Here is the order I use.

Most of us were told we were supposed to know who we are by now. A psychologist walks through James Marcia's four identity statuses and Erik Erikson's psychosocial moratorium, and why the messy, uncertain middle is how a durable identity actually gets built.

This morning I read a friend’s social media post declaring that she is working tirelessly to become somebody she’s proud to be. It’s a familiar tale. Too many of us believe that we are not, at this moment, enough.